Thursday, September 24, 2009
And the countdown to 10...continues...Part 5
Part 5: Sometimes you've gotta fake it until you can make it...all the way to the delivery!
When we...meaning me...began to creep towards and then past the 37 week mark I began to go from happy that I'd managed to carry this baby past the fears of pre term labor to being completely pissed that he was now refusing to vacate the premises. Seriously what the fuck?? COME OUT ALREADY!!
I was swollen. I was tired. My breast refused to cooperate unless they were coralled in a nursing bra AT ALL TIMES! I'd begun to have these bizarre dreams that I'd be pregnant forever and that pretty soon you'd be able to see an imprant of this childs face pressing up against my belly as if he were stuck behind a glass window.
The days of Jon not getting any nookey were LONG gone. I...like every other expectant mother had read "What to Expect When You're Expecting" on top of a slew of other maternity books and was determined to subscribe to any and all proven or even slightly plausible actions that may possibly enduce labor. My first strategy was to have sex until this kid screamed, "ENOUGH ALREADY! PULL OUT SO I CAN ESCAPE THIS WHORE HOUSE".
Unfortunately, the one that screamed enough first, was in fact my once sex deprived husband. Useless. Completely useless.
You're gonna whine cause you don't get anything. Not even a hint of sexual action in months and then when I'm all, "hey baby...ya wanna (wink, wink)"...he can't keep up!
He began to make excuses. He was tired. He wasn't feeling well. Lies...all lies. I don't care how tired this man said he was...he'd stay up for sex. My god he was 23 years old...how tired can you possibly be at that age? And the not feeling well crap...well, we had been together almost two years and he'd NEVER had so much as a sniffle in all that time. When the lies stopped working he would just try to avoid me. It wasn't hard to do because I was huge and I couldn't cathc him when he ran away.
I cried. A lot. I was so miserable. I couldn't understand how at 29 weeks my body was insistent that this child GET OUT but at 36, then 37, 38 and now creeping ever closer to 39 weeks it was all "hey you like this womb?? You should totally stay here FOREVER."
I was becoming desperate so I did what any person with a shred of sanity would do...I called my doctor. I figured he is the only one with the power to help me.
I had complications dialating and then delivering Olivia. After 28 1/2 hours of "pure hell" they had to do an emergency c-section. Later on it was determined that I had cephalo pelvic disproportion and that unless Olivia had been like 5 lbs with a teeny tiny head...she was never gonna make the final pass into the birth canal. Thanks to the drugs I didn't feel much like going and kicking in the doctors teeth that had lied to me for 4 1/2 hours while I pushed.
Him and the bitchy ass nurse kept saying "great push"..."good job"...."keep doing that". I kept thinking the mere definition of doing a good job means you are progressing towards an end result. The end result was delivering this baby...apparently they didn't see it the same way.
They had me convinced that if I just "tried harder" or "gave it may all" she would come out. Even as they were wheeling me to the operating room I kept telling my parents, "maybe if I just push for a little longer she will come out"...yeah, not gonna happen.
Apparently at that moment my ability to push life into the world was broken. This was something that was discussed MANY times during this current pregnancy. I wasn't afraid of trying for a vaginal birth. I actually was on board with it. My doctor didn't try to dissuade me either but early on we had discussed the definite possibility that I may end up right back in that same failed pushing situation. What the hell is it with my failed lady parts anyways??
He offered me the chance to just schedule a c-section. I didn't accept at that time but now...now I was tired...I wanted this baby to come out....I wanted my option for c-section back.
Me: Dr. Doran...I'm tired...I think I wan't to go ahead and have a c-section.
Dr. Doran: Tired huh? Well you're gonna be even more tired when this little one arrives. Enjoy this time with just your daughter. The baby will come when he is ready.
Me: Okay. Yeah. Umm...I get the whole wait for the natural progression...but I'm ready. I'm like...really, really, REALLY ready.
Dr. Doran: (polite doctor laughter...scribbling in chart...totally ignoring me)
Me: So are you saying that I can't have a scheduled c-section? (on the verge of tears)
Dr. Doran: I am saying...(dramatic pause to show that he is so in control of this situation)...that you are barely 39 weeks. What's the rush? I can carry you safely to 42 weeks if need be.
Me: (tears have dried up completely and sheer anger has ensued) Are you married Dr. Doran? Because if you are I am going to hunt down your wife and tell her that you are now threatening me with another 3 weeks of pregnancy. If she has ever been pregnant I am pretty sure she may want to kill you for that remark.
I leave the office. Escorted by a nurse. I go directly home, call Jon and commence with having a nervous breakdown.
Me: Babe (sniffle) I hate my doctor.
Jon: Are you crying? Oh my god...what's wrong? Do I need to come home? Is it...oh my god..is it time?
Me: NO! NOOOOOO!!! It. Is. NOT. Time. Didn't you hear me??? I hate my doctor!!!
Jon: Okay. Okay..sorry...it's not time. You had me worried. I'm sorry..why do you hate the doctor?
Me: Because he's mean.
Jon: (trying not to laugh because he knows that even though he is currently safe by being 20 minutes away...I do, however, have the ability to get in my car, drive over to his work, and attempt to kick his ass) Why is he mean? Did he say something about the weight you've gained.
Me: What? What? Why would you bring up my weight? Now you're mean. (starting to sob)
Jon: I didn't bring up your weig....nevermind...lets focus on why you hate the doctor. What did he do?
Me: Okay so you know how my due date is September 25th?
Jon: Yes I am painfully aware that is your due date...you talk about it constantly. Now that we are over obsessing about the number 35, I can see your new favorite number is 25.
Me: Okay...so the date today is September 16th.
Jon: Yes I know that too...is there a point to this?
Me: Well the crazy ass doctor who I thought held my salvation and would grant me a magical c-section is now saying he can carry me "safely" until October 9th if I don't go into labor on my own...naturally.
Jon: Whoa...hold on...wait a minute. He said what??
Me: Yeah...ya heard me...OCTOBER! 9th!! That's like almost another month!
Jon: Oh HELL NO! I can't do this for another month!
Me: YOU? YOU CAN'T DO THIS FOR ANOTHER MONTH...WHAT ABOUT ME! HELLO...REMEMBER ME...YOUR WIFE?? CARRYING HUMAN...IN HER OWN BODY??? LET'S NOT LOSE FOCUS ON WHO IS TRULY IN NEED OF THIS DELIVERY!
Jon: You want me to come home so we can have sex?
Me: (pretty sure I am now sounding like Freddy Crougar) NO you had your chance...you failed... I WANT THIS BABY O-U-T!! NOW DAMNIT!
I slammed down the phone and immediately began thinking of any and EVERY possible way to accomplish this. I was a woman on a mission. I didn't care how cooky or possibly embarassing it may be I was not going to keep this child in for a minute over September 25th even if it meant camping on my doctor's door step!
I went on the internet. I consulted friends that had recently had a baby. Some suggestions were helpful like the one that said walking would enduce labor. My neighbor Stacy, who lived directly across from me, would come over every night and lead me around our apartment complex for a good hour. She would drink a glass of wine and we would chat about our kids. We did this for a couple of nights and on the 20th I thought I had finally hit pay dirt. I was contracting.
I waited for a little while and sure enough they were coming every couple of minutes and getting a little stronger each time. I alerted Jon and we took Olivia to our friends house that was on the way to the hospital. As soon I was hooked up to the monitors the contractions began to fizzle. I tried not to be upset because they still needed to check me. The nurse came in and did the exam. I prayed for a 7 or 8. I new that was the magic number that meant I could stay. I was at a 4. Some women would be excited by this. Me, not so much. I had been at a 4 since I left the hospital after the pre-term labor. I had been holding a 4 for just about 10 weeks now.
After about an hour more of monitoring and announcing that the fetal heartrate sounds "perfect" and there was "no change in the cervic"... we were cut loose. I was dissappointed but hopeful. If walking brought contractions...then more walking and other things would surely start them back up and get this show on the road...right??
Two days later I thought for sure this was it! Now back when I was pregnant with Olivia my water broke and then the contractions came...but they didn't start until I was at the hospital. This time I seemed to contract first but no water breakage so I thought...hey don't lose hope...just cause there is no waterworks can't possibly mean that this isn't the real deal. I had been contracting for the entire time that Jon was at work. I figured 9 almost 10 hours of solid contractions that started at 10 minutes apart and worked their way down to just north of 1 1/2 minutes apart definitely meant we were in business.
So we took Olivia to my parents this time. And with bleary eyed husband at the wheel we made it to the hospital just at about 7pm. I was still contracting when they strapped on the bands. Good sign. The room was filled with the sounds of the heartbeat and the whooshing of baby body parts moving. The nurse came in to check but had to wait out several good contractions. Great sign. I awaited her announcement that I had dialated to an acceptable number.
Nurse: Good news.
Nurse: You've progressed.
Me: Oh thank god.
Nurse: Now you're a 5.
Just after midnight the doctor came in to see me since he was there doing a delivery. No change and contractions had once again died out. I felt like one of those women who kept hearing a squeaking sound every time she pushed the brakes in her car but now that she was actually at the mechanic it failed to duplicate.
I was all..."I swear...I was really have these STRONG contractions...like doubled over praying for rescue..painful...contractions". The doctor just looked at me...smiled politely and declared I was good to go home and wait for "actual" labor to commence.
Since this doctor was not the one I usually saw, but was in the same practice, I thought I could sob my way into a c-section. Or at least gain sympathy for a possible tribunal to be held where all the other doctors in the practice would scorn my doctor for torturing me in this way and he would finally feel horrid and grant me a c-section on my due date just a mere 2 days away now. It didn't seem like it was going to happen.
I had to wake Jon up as he dozed in the painful looking chair that was crammed in the corner of the exam room. I offered to drive. He politely refused and we made it home in time for him to grab about 4 hours of sleep before he had to be up for another day of work.
Desperation at getting this kid out had now turned to sheer craziness. I spent all day walking. My mom took me out to the beach thinking that maybe walking in sand would help. All it did was give me crazy charlie horses and make me extremely tired. I tried not to sleep...I was like a Navy Seal during hell week...I had to keep training. But for what?? I was training my body to go into labor. It was utterly ridiculous.
September 24th rolled around and the weekend was within our sights. What I had deemed, privately, to be our final Friday as a family of 3 started out quiet at 5 a.m. when I got up to get Olivia ready for Kindergarten. We lived out of district so I would drive her to my moms house and she would take her in when she took my sister. Oh how my baby sister enjoyed being in the same exact elementary school as her niece. A niece that happened to have been introduced for the first time at just 4 months old to this exact school as a sort of "show and tell project". Yep...early signs that we were indeed on track for our own reality show or at least a guest spot on Jerry Springer. Magic...pure magic.
I had dropped off Olivia and headed back home to do some laundry and make sure everything was truly ready for this baby. I tried to keep the irrational thoughts of attempting some ridiculous manuever to coax this kid out of my belly. Instead I decided to drink castor oil. What on God's green earth was I thinking??
Thankfully I couldn't handle more than half a swallow and therefore didn't have to endure what I'm sure is the painful wrath of that choice. All I managed to do was make myself puke from the sheer disgustingness of the taste. Apparetly I wasn't as determined as most to enduce "actual" labor.
Everyone checked in with me during the day to see if I had any progression in either the crazy department or more importantly the labor department. Each time I advised no...on both counts. The weekend was still young though.
That night we decided to eat out and when we came home I treated myself to 1/2 a glass of wine. I only got 1/4 of it down before falling asleep. I woke up completely startled at a little after 1 a.m. I thought for a second that I was in labor. Turned out that I was having extreme gas from the steamed brocolli I had decided to eat for dinner. It must have been really bad because Jon had wedged a pillow above his head.
I went to the bathroom and then made my way to the nursery. I sat there for a long while and imagined a sleeping baby in the crib. I then willed myself to start contracting. All I actually accomplished was falling asleep on the double bed we had in the nursery for middle of the night breast feeding. Jon found me sleeping there a little after 7 a.m. when he woke up to no pregnant wife in bed and began to search the house in a panic.
I laid there for a good while with him laying next to me and wondered why wasn't I in labor. Jon told me not to rush it. I began to hate him. I tried to force that idea out of my head because I couldn't bare the thought that "if" I did go into labor and "if" I was fortunate enough to have this baby in a timely manner all I wouldn't want to retell the story years later to him and be like, "the day you were born I was SO pissed at your father for telling me not to rush it". In hindsight...now knowing how things turned out...that would have been a far less scarring and possible psychology trip enducing story for our child to hear.
As morning turned to afternoon and then evening I was once again a mad woman. I called my girlfriend, Jen, and asked if they would like to have dinner with us. At her house. Apparently along with my inability to control the ever expanding size of my ass...I had in fact also lost my ability to have manners. Who the hell calls someone to have dinner and insist that it be at the other persons house?? Ummm...that would be me.
She agreed and then I asked her possibly "the" most embarassing question that I have ever asked a female friend. First let me say that she was training to become a doula. She had two children already and was very wonderful with labor and delivery. I missed her first child being born because...well...she adamantly told me NOT to come. Her second child I missed being born because...well...I think she actually sneezed and that baby came flying out. Thankfully a nurse was there to catch her. She had no drugs with either and was now very interested in helping other woman labor through in a natural way. She was also privy to "ways" that could help you contract and dialate. I no longer faulted her for the failed castor oil attempt from the day before, so I thought if anyone could get me to labor & delivery tonight...outside of my unwilling doctor...she was it.
So I asked her to help soften my cervix. Yep...you read that right. I...crazy pregnant woman...had just propositioned one of my very best friends to stick her hand where no self respecting friends hand should EVER have to be placed! She was stone cold sober when she actually agreed. I decided at that exact moment that she should be the baby's godmother. It only seemed right after what we were about to attempt.
I announced to Jon that we'd be going to Jen's for dinner. He was fine with any distraction from what the day was supposed to be, but clearly was NOT producing. I conveniently left out what else would be going on outside of the consumption of spaghetti and letting our kids play.
Jen was completely professional about the whole exchange and finally I decided to tell Jon, once we were at her house, that this is why I wanted to come over. After he went through a litany of girl on girl action jokes he just nodded his head and steered clear. There was NO reasoning with me at this point. I wanted this child out. Jen lived less than 1/2 a mile from the hospital I'd be delivering at so in the event that this worked I was right close by. I even threw my overnight bag in the trunk for good luck.
Nervous chatter ensued as she "attempted" to strip my cervix. Guess I should have advised her that I had a bum cervix that was very uncooperative to anything close to child delivery. After what seemed like a lifetime but in truth was only 20 or so minutes...we gave up. Failure...once again was the tattoo that I should have placed on anything below the waist but about my knees in regards to my body.
Instead we chatted and ate dinner. Jon and her husband just stared at us through the meal. Around 9p we began to have restless kids that whined and fought more than played so we announced it was time to go. I felt crampy. I decided to go to the bathroom before leaving. I was hit with a rather large contraction right off the bat. I must have been in the bathroom for awhile because when I came out I had three sets of eyes on me, with questioning glances. I hugged Jen goodbye and swore we would keep this between us (too bad I decided to get a blog 10 years later...oops) and she made me promise to call her if anything began to happen. I promised but I felt empty inside because I didn't forsee a damn thing happening. This would be like ALL the other moments of contracting and then nothing.
We drove home and got Olivia into bed. It was close to 10pm and I couldn't sleep. I was 2 hours away from being technically OVERDUE! The clock was taunting me and I was so uncomfortable. No position seemed to help. I went and took a shower just to let the water relax me. All that seemed to do was make it worse so I got out after only a few minutes. I tried to lay on my side. My back. I wanted desperately to lay on my stomach...but even after constructing a pillow frame to around the outskirt of my body and lumbering on to my stomach I couldn't stay in that position for very long because I hurt so bad.
I didn't want to wake up Jon but it was getting increasingly worse and to the point where these were definitely the worse contractions I had to date. I went to the bathroom for the millionth time in the past hour and found that I had lost my mucus plug. For me...I deemed it was "time". I woke up Jon and stupidly asked him what to do. He said maybe we should wait. For some reason...I thought it sounded like a good idea.
I continued to contract through the night and at around 5 a.m. I declared that I just could not handle another minute. I called my mom to see if she could take Olivia. I kept apologizing for the early hour in between gritting my teeth in pain. I went and woke up Jon who had fallen asleep on the couch.
I was continued right on contracting. The whole time leaving the house, driving to my parents house, kissing Olivia good-bye and then making our way to the hospital. Jon literally thought about pulling over a few times because I was panting so hard to keep from crying. I was hurting....but ecstatic. It was baby time!!
It was so quiet in the parking lot and the sun was barely pinking the sky. Jon helped me out of the car and it took an additional 10 minutes to make it into the building. We had to stop every few steps because I was consumed with contractions. Once upstairs the nurses greeted us cheefully and put us in the exam room. The monitors recorded each contraction and once I had a good mountain range of peaks and valleys registered they came in to examine me.
I was at a 6.
OH MY FUCKING GOD!
I didn't have time to harp on the number I was being thrown into another horrendous contraction. This continued for another 2 hours when the nurse announced they would need to check me again because surely "with all these contractions your cervix must be dialated more".
Apparently my cervix as it seemed did not get the memo that contractions + crazy pregnant woman desperate to deliver baby in womb = dialated cervix. The nurse announced that I was still at a "solid 6".
What? How in God's name is that even......ugh...can't breath...fucking painful contraction that is apparently NOT having any affect on the gates of eternal child birthing bliss....possible??
And then before I thought I could not take another possible second of contracting...they stopped. Not sputtered out. They just downright stopped. Done. Finito. Nothing. NADA.
I was mistified. I had been going strong for close to 4 hours and then boom...nothing. They came back to check the bands assuming that they had simply fallen off or that maybe I had tried to escape...who knows. Another 10 minutes. Nothing. The nurse checked me again and announced still a 6. I wanted to kill her. But I thought for sure they would keep me. I had lost my mucus plug...they saw that I was contracting...what the shit?? Get me a room people...let's do this! I am so ready!
Apparently in the world of L&D you need more than a mucus plug. You need water breakage...a 7 or 8 cm dialated cervix... a never ending barrage contractions to actually be rewarded with an admittance bracelet. The nurse began to unstrap me and tell me that it "will happen in its own time"...and "wouldn't you rather labor in the comfort of your own home than be cooped up here". I was like ahhh...hey bitch...you guys have fucking awesome ice, jacuzzi tubs and rockin grill cheese sandwiches...nope I'd rather be here so lets get me a room!
Another 10 minutes and they were cutting me loose. Waving at a bleary eyed Jon and a wild eyed possibly completely crazy and still pregnant me, who was now a good 10 hours overdue and not willing to take this shit another minute. As we stepped into the elevator I began to hatch a plan. I couldn't change the status of my broke down cervix or break my own water but while I had been hooked to the monitors I noticed any time I tensed up it mimicked a contraction. Brilliance...pure brilliance. Now the question was do I tell complete zombie of a husband or just make it look like the evil contractions had miraculously returned.
I went with option #2.
What did I have to lose?? I had to get this baby out! I couldn't go another round of thinking it was time and then being turned away. At this rate it would take another week possibly two to get to a 7! And the thought of going to 42 weeks and letting my doctor prove that he was indeed right...well that shit was not gonna happen if I could help it.
We were just about the clear the threshold of the hospital when I stopped mid step and grasped Jon's arm. If I was gonna do this I had to make it believable and that including possibly maming my husband. Small sacrifice on his part...I mean I WAS THE ONE DOING ALL THE WORK!
Jon winced as I tightened my grip on his arm and braced himself for whatever else may come along. Then approximately 30 seconds later I straightened up, took a deep breath and tried to act like I was fine. He immediately asked if maybe we should go back upstairs. Yes...this could work...but I can't be too obvious.
I looked at him with sad eyes...
Me: No...I'm not going back up there...they'll just tell us to go home because of my stupid cervix.
Jon: I know. I know..you're tired of this, but you've never started contracting again so soon after being taken off the monitor.
Me: (shit...did I just blow this by acting too soon) Ummmm....(better to fake another contraction) ouch, ouch, ouch.....
Jon: Here...here...(dropping my bag to the floor)...lean into me.
He cradles me against him as I rock side to side.
Jon: Breath. Don't forget to breath.
Me: (feeling slightly bad for lying to him) hee hee hee hee whoooooo....
Jon: Good...good breathing babe. How ya doin...you coming out of it yet?
Jon: Seriously babe...I think we should go upstairs.
Me: Umm...lets just go walk around the parking lot for a few minutes and see how I do. It may just stop again. I can't handle being sent home...again.
Jon agrees completely unaware that I am doing perhaps my best acting...ever...and we walk back to the car. Conveniently stopping every so often to drive home that I am "actually" contracting. After another 30 minutes of being led around the parking lot like a show pony and really only feeling one...maybe two...true contractions but making it seem like I'd had over two dozen Jon was not taking any other answer except the one that led me back up to the 5th floor.
When the elevator doors opened the nurses looked at us like we were complete morons. Jon was like...weeeeerrrrrre baaaaaaaack! And I maintained a woeful yet strained facade. The nurses put us back in the same exam room.
It was showtime.
I was checked every hour because the monitors were reflecting "such a beautiful strong pattern" so "you must be dialated more"...yep, these babies weren't stopping. I tried not to laugh when first the nurse and then about 3 hours later the doctor stood mistified that I had indeed not gone any farther than a 6. Stupid 6. I hate the number 6.
I worried that for sure they would send me home. But whether it was fear that I would harm myself, the child...a small group of innocent people...I don't know what but the next thing I knew I was being banded and led to a room. It was just after 12p on Sunday, September 26th. I had made it to a room. Surely they couldn't cut me loose now that they had admitted me.
I wasn't about to find out.
However, faking contractions...is a little tiring. The nurses and the doctor decided that in order to rev these bad boys up they wouldn't confine me to the bed and monitors so I was free to roam about the room. I could use the birthing ball or soak in the tub (since my water hadn't broken) and then every so often they would check me. SCORE!!
Turns out a husband left to peruse television channels unbothered does NOT notice that you are even in the same room as him...even when you are about to bare his child. Men. But that was fine by me because it allowed me to rest. I actually took a little nap. Called and checked in on Olivia. Sat on the birthing ball...which I deemed to be demonic. Whoever decided that a person who is at the moment in their life when they will most definitely be their heaviest (unless you are like me and carrying on a mad passionate affair with Ben & Jerry) would want to balance on a ball is a complete an utter fucktard! For lack of a better word.
Every so often I would turn on the contractions, especially when I knew it was about time to go back on the monitor and be checked. The nurses would come in and seem completely shocked that given the pattern on the monitor I was still only a 6.
Did I mention how much I hated that fucking number yet??
Night was approaching and I did finally begin to have some real contractions. I had been advised to sit in a lukewarm bath with the jets if I was okay with that. The nurses surmised that I must be too tense and that was why I wasn't dialating. I sheepishly agreed and sat in the tub. About 5 minutes later I could feel actual contractions. It took everything in me not to say, "Jon I'm having a contraction". That would have been bad.
After my bath I made my way back to the bed and continued honestly contracting. So much so that when I was checked again a few hours later I was miraculously a 7! Lucky number 7!
I did the math. If I had gone back home and waited for the "real contractions" to start again I would have been just now coming back to the hospital. It was a little past 11pm. I didn't feel guilty in the least. Especially since I'd had almost 12 full hours of yummy ice!
I tried to get some sleep but found that I was antsy as all hell. Jon managed a few moments here and there on a the fold out chair/bed contraption. I had a couple of hellish contractions that made me call out for him but it was a pretty quiet night.
When the shift change occured at 7 a.m. I was introduced to my new nurse and immediately I knew that I loved her. She walked in and her first words to me were "my goal today is to get you delivered before I leave". I worried that meant another 12 hours because that is what the other nurse had told me when I asked how long their shifts are. So I said..."delivery before 7 tonight sounds like a plan to me". Then she said the words that made me want to kiss her, "honey...I'm leaving early at 3p today...so we need to get this show on the road".
Ahhhhhhhhh....(choir of angels sing)
She came and checked me and announced I was at an 8. Yippee. I didn't know what prize that bought me nor did I care...all I knew was 2 more centimeters and I can push and this nurse is bound damned and determined to deliver this baby on her watch! Let's roll!
Next thing I knew the doctor was in. This was the same doctor that had performed my biopsy and informed us that "stopping the birth control in December" we would be able to get pregnant by "spring...summer at the earliest". It was fall and I was just 2cm shy of being ready to push. Maybe he should re-calibrate his fertility calculator. Just a thought.
He asked if we would like him to break my water and hopefully get things moving faster. I was on board for anything that would get this show on the road. Plus, I was getting tired of faking things still unsure of whether I was "laboring" enough to keep me there and not get sent home again. I figured broken water equals no possible way in hell I'd be released without a baby in my arms. I barely uttered yes all the way and he was gloving up and busting my sack.
Within 10 minutes...maybe even less I couldn't decide if he was my new favorite person or if I hated him because the hellish contractions that brought us to the hospital just a day or so before were back...full throtle. But before I could really settle on hating him for putting me in pain...they stopped again.
Jon and I just sat there thinking...this is ridiculous. Noticing the stalled contractions the nurse came back with the doctor in tow and he checked me again...still an 8! It was just after 11 a.m.
He began to lay it all out on the line. I'm full term. I have a history of stalled dialation. Once I am dialated I have problems delivering vaginally due to the cephalo pelvic disproportion...blah, blah, blah...medical talk. I had two choices...he could start me on pitocin which would amp up the contractions and get me to 10cm and hopefully I could push the baby out but most likely would need a c-section like the last child and there was no way to guarantee how long that approach could take seeing as with Olivia it was 28 1/2 hours...I'd come in to the hospital with her at a 7 and it took 231/2 hours to get to 10 then push for over 4 hours only to be rushed into the OR for an emergency c-section. There was no way to predict that this wouldn't be the same, different in a faster way or worse...different in a longer way! Or we could just do the c-section. I looked at Jon. He gave me the gaze that said, "it's your decision". I turned to the doctor and said, "when can you do the c-section"? He checked his watch and said I have an open slot at 12p.
Holy shit that was less than an hour away. Everything after that began to move incredibly fast. The anesthesiologist came in and assessed me for the epidural. I was nervous. Epidurals meant this was really and truly happening. No turning back. Plus my epidural with Olivia had been horrible...a complete failure. This one though...she was great. I was settled back and ready to roll in no time at all.
The nurse came in to take us to the operating room. She smiled down at me as I was beginning to tear up and my teeth were chattering from the anesthesia. She said, "I told you we'd have a baby before I left today". Yes, yes you did...I thought to myself. She asked, "so what will we be welcoming in there? A boy or a girl?" Jon did the honors of announcing we'd be welcoming Garren Jesse...a son. I was too busy trying to keep my teeth from busting.
The nurse smiled and said "a boy...that's great...we've had lots of girls today...a boy would be nice."
At that precise moment my husband said, "babe the name of the bed that you are laying on and have been laying in this whole enitre time is Hannah. Isn't that bizare?" At first I had no idea what he was talking about but then I had remembered last night while moving about the room each of the pieces of the equipment in the room had a name tag. We asked the nurse and she said that instead of numbering them they named them. It was a unique thing they did on the Labor & Delivery floor. While we had taken notice of the name of my IV pump, the baby warmer and the O2...we had never noticed the bed.
"You're right"....I chattered...."that is bizare". The nurse inquired why it was so strange and we explained that before we knew we were having a boy we made sure to pick out two names. One girl. One boy. Just in case. She laughed, said that we were smart for being so prepared since you just neve know and then it was time to move from the bed named Hannah to the cold steel operating table....